Pregnant Dreams

Pregnancy Dreams: An A-Z Guide

Are your pregnancy dreams especially vivid (and strange!)? Scroll through our pregnancy dreams guide and decipher what your subconcious is trying to tell you!

Mysterious, exceptionally realistic, and sometimes just plain wacky dreams are a common occurrence during pregnancy. In the olden days, many confinement nannies believed that what you dreamt during pregnancy gave valuable insight into you and your baby’s health and well being.

Are you curious about your pregnancy dreams? Keep a journal stashed by your bed and jot down notes each morning, then use our handy A-Z guide to decipher what your baby might be trying to tell you!

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Acorns: “From little acorns big oak trees grow.” The acorn is a metaphor for pregnancy. (Also see Forests)

Animals: Animals in dreams remind us to trust our instincts. (Also see Attack, Birds, Cat, Dolphin, Snake, Whale, Zoos)

Airplanes: Airplanes symbolize travel, change, and a desire to be in a new and different place, either physically or emotionally. (Also see Attack, Cars, Flying, Journey)

Armor: A symbol of protection; a way to keep both mother and baby safe from outside elements. (Also see Attack, Castles)

Attack: Dreaming of being attacked has a fairly literal meaning. It could indicate fear or anxiety about some unknown part of your life. Perhaps you are feeling vulnerable, either at work or at home. Try to discern who your attacker is, as this will yield some powerful insight. (Also see Airplanes, Animals, Birds, Armor, Knife, Monster)

Babies: Expectant parents and parents of young children often dream of babies. These dreams take many forms, from babies who are born deformed or become lost, to dreams of abandonment and death. These dreams are not premonitions; rather they are simply a parent’s way of dealing with the anxiety and responsibility inherent in parenting. (See also Birth, Boy, Family, Girl, Miscarriage, Pregnancy, Twins)

Bank: Dreams of financial institutions likely reflect an anxiety about finances.

Bath: This represents the womb and may be symbolic of your need to nurture yourself. (Also see Water)

Bed: Sometimes dreams are direct messages. If you find yourself dreaming of beds, it may be that you need to get more rest in preparation for the big event.

Bees: While pregnant, you may feel a bit like the queen bee, happy to get all the attention but exhausted from being the one in charge. (Also see Flowers)

Bird: Seeing a bird in your dreams can equate to freedom and success. You may have a sense after having a bird dream of feeling like you’ve risen above something, for example a pregnancy-related anxiety or some negative feelings about impending birth and motherhood (or something negative in your own past). (Also see Animals, Attack, Egg, Fleeing, Flying, Forest, Nest, Zoos)

Birth: This is a common dream as a pregnant woman approaches her due date. Such dreams act as a “trial run” and help prepare the mother for the big event. (Also see Babies, Boy, Family, Girl, Miscarriage, Pregnancy, Twins)

Boy: If you dream of a little boy or giving birth to a boy it could be a premonition. But it may also symbolize your maternal power developing and an increase of power in your family. (Also see Birth, Girl, Pregnancy)

Boyfriends/Girlfriends: There’s nothing like pregnancy to bring ex-lovers back into your dreams! Don’t worry; this is simply your mind’s way of clearing them from your life once and for all. (Also see Infidelity, Marriage, Past, Sex)

Bridge: This is a classic symbol of transition. Water is often involved as well. The key to the meaning of the dream is whether or not you were able to cross the bridge. (Also see Journey, Oceans, Lakes, and Rivers, Water)

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Calendar Date: This is one of the few dreams that could be prophetic, especially if you are closing in on your due date. (Also see Clocks, Past)

Candle: A candle is a symbol of spirituality—the “light” of the child inside of you. (Also see Fire)

Cars: Such dreams are related to the level of control you have in your life. The physical condition of the car, as well as your location in the car (for example: Are you the one driving, or are you a passenger?) are reflections of how in control you are feeling. (Also see Airplanes,Bridge, Journey, Traffic)

Castles: A castle could indicate a feeling of victory, an expression of joy at being pregnant. The thick walls, moat and drawbridge, and fortress-like aspect of the structure also suggest a feeling of protection or wanting to keep the baby safe and secure. (Also see Armor, Bridge, Home, Houses, Stairs)

Cat: Pregnant women often dream of giving birth to cats, possibly because a cat is about the same size as a baby. The cat is a feminine symbol. (Also see Animals, Zoos)

Caves: A cave symbolizes a haven and a retreat, and is a very powerful symbol of Mother Nature and the womb. (Also see Forest, Monster, Snake)

Circle: A powerful symbol that indicates completion of a journey or a feeling of completion. (Also see Earth, Egg, Ring)

Clocks: Time becomes a common theme as a woman gets closer to her due date. (Also see Calendar Date, Past)

Coffins, and other symbols of death, are not premonitions. Rather, they are symbols of change and moving on in a career or in a relationship.

Cooking: This is another metaphor for the process of pregnancy. (Also see Eating, Egg, Fire, Fruit, Harvest, Kitchen, Knife, Milk)

Dolphin: The dolphin is tied to feminine sexuality. Take note of how connected you feel to the dolphin in your dream. (Also see Animals, Oceans, Lakes, and Rivers, Water, Whale, Zoos)

Ear: The shape of the ear closely resembles a fetus. The ear may be a metaphor for your baby.

Earth: A very common grounding theme, indicating a oneness with nature. (Also see Airplanes,Circle, Flying, Home, Island, Oceans, Lakes, and Rivers, Water)

Eating: Dreaming of a particular food may be your mind’s way of alerting you to a deficiency in your diet. If you dream of oranges you might need to eat more vitamin C, for example. Similarly, dreams of blood and meat may indicate a need for more iron. Eating can also be symbolic of a woman’s state of mind about her pregnancy. If she is picking at her food, barely partaking, she may be ambivalent about motherhood. In contrast, if she is sitting down and eating a meal with gusto, this indicates she is fully prepared to embrace her role. (Also see Egg, Fruit, Harvest, Kitchen, Knife, Milk)

Egg: This is a classic symbol that often appears in dreams in the early stages of pregnancy—sometimes this is a woman’s first indication that she is pregnant! (Also see Birds, Eating, Circle, Cooking)

Elevator: Dreams of elevators often indicate movement or transition in our lives. (Also see Falling, Opening, Stairs)

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Falling: This is a common dream, indicating uncertainty about the future. Not surprisingly, it is especially common among pregnant women. (Also see Airplanes, Elevator, Fleeing, Opening, Stairs)

Family: This symbolizes a feeling of completion now that you are pregnant. Conversely, dreams of family could indicate that there are some issues that need to be resolved. (Also see Babies, Boy, Birth, Girl, Miscarriage, Pregnancy, Twins)

Fire: Fire symbolizes passion and could also indicate concern over a major life transition. (Also see Candle, Cooking, Fleeing, Water)

Fleeing: This is connected with a feeling of helplessness, of being out of control of one’s life and one’s body. (Also see Attack, Airplanes, Birds, Falling, Home, Infidelity, Opening, Stairs)

Flowers: If in full bloom, the flowers are a positive symbol of the beautiful life growing inside of you. If the flowers are wilted, it could be a direct warning that you need to drink more water. (Also see Bees, Opening, Water)

Flying: Such dreams are fortuitous, and represent freedom and release. Dreaming of flying late in the pregnancy can signify an easy birth. Flying is a metaphor for personal power and overcoming obstacles. (Also see Airplanes, Attack, Birds, Earth, Falling, Fleeing, Journey)

Forests: Forests often represent unacknowledged fears. There is darkness, mystery, and just a bit of magic to a forest. Take note of what you find in the forest: Objects, other people, or animals may be hidden in the trees. They’re there for a reason! (Also see Acorns, Birds, Caves, Flowers, Journey, Monster, Nest, Snake, Walking)

Fruit: This is symbolic of life and could also represent the unborn child. (Also see Eating, Harvest, Kitchen, Knife)

Girl: The girl you dream of could either be yourself at a young age or a premonition of the sex of your child. (Also see Babies, Birth, Family, Hair, Miscarriage, Pregnancy, Twins)

Gold: Gold is a powerful element and could be symbolic of the richness of the pregnant life.

Gun or other weapon: Both are a symbol of aggression and protection. If you are the one doing the attacking, take note of who you are fighting. If you are defending yourself, this indicates a strong sense of worth. A knife has sexual connotations. (Also see Armor, Attack, Knife)

Hair: Hair has many meanings. It is associated with beauty, where lack or loss of hair symbolizes passing youth. Long hair represents creativity, while short hair, or hair that’s been cut, indicates lack of creativity. (Also see Boy, Girl)

Harvest: This represents the cycle of nature, and the need for patience. (Also see Cooking, Eating, Fruit, Kitchen, Knife)

Home: Home is often a metaphor for pregnancy. The feelings you have toward the “home” are key. (Also see Castles, Houses, Kitchen, Stairs, Key)

Houses: House imagery is common in pregnancy, for obvious reasons. A pregnant woman is “housing” her child, and the house itself (i.e. her body), is in constant state of change. It is not unusual for a pregnant woman to dream of adding rooms to the house, tacking on porches or additional levels, both as a representation of making more room for the baby as well as a metaphor for the change in the size and shape of her body. (Also see Home, Castles, Kitchen, Stairs, Key)

Husband: The interaction between you and your husband is critical to the interpretation of the dream. If you dream of him being aloof and standoffish, it may be that you need him to participate more in your pregnancy. (Also see Boyfriends/Girlfriends, Infidelity, Marriage, Ring, Sex)

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Infidelity: Such dreams are not uncommon among pregnant women. They represent an understandable uncertainty about how the child will affect the marriage. (Also see Boyfriends/Girlfriends, Marriage, Past, Sex)

Island: Another great metaphor for the relationship between mother and her unborn child. (Also see Dolphin, Earth, Oceans, Lakes, and Rivers, Water)

Jewels: Precious stones symbolize the inner self as well as the unborn child.

Journey: This is a fairly literal symbol of the nine-month journey of pregnancy. (Also see Airplanes, Bridge, Cars, Flying, Traffic, Walking)

Joy: Dreaming of joy may be your mind’s way of encouraging you to express joy more fully while awake.

Key: A phallic symbol as well as one that is representative of a new sense of freedom. (Also see Car, Home, Houses)

Kitchen: Cooking and baking symbols are rampant in pregnant women’s dreams. The analogy is of preparation and nurturing. (Also see Cooking, Eating, Home, Houses, Knife)

Knife: A symbol of aggression. A knife also represents a penis and may indicate the dreamer’s fear of intimacy or sexual relations. (Also see Armor, Attack, Cooking, Eating, Gun, Kitchen)

Knitting: This indicates nurturing and preparing for the baby’s arrival.

Laboratory: Analogous to preparation for childbirth and parenting.

Marriage: If you dream of marriage, take it literally. It is likely that you want to get married or are about to be married. (Also see Boyfriends/Girlfriends, Husband, Infidelity, Past, Pregnancy,Ring, Sex)

Milk: This is likely a literal dream as your body begins to prepare for milk production. (Also see Cooking, Eating, Kitchen)

Miscarriage: This is a typical anxiety dream, and in no way should it be considered a premonition. Check with your doctor if you are at all concerned. (Also see Babies, Birth, Boy, Family, Girl, Pregnancy, Twins)

Monster: Monsters appear frequently in children’s dreams and represent a feeling of insecurityor lack of safety on the child’s part. When adults dream of monsters, it represents some unresolved trauma or fear that needs to be overcome. (Also see Attack, Caves, Fleeing, Forest, Snake)

Movie Stars: When pregnant women dream of movie stars it represents the starring role they are playing in their own lives. (Also see Performing)

Mountains: Mountains represent challenges to be met, the stages of the pregnancy journey, the arduousness of the process and the ultimate victory at scaling the heights. If you dream of descending the mountain, rather than ascending it, you may be nearing the end of your pregnancy. (Also see Airplanes, Caves, Forest, Journey, Oceans, Lakes, and Rivers, Snake, Walking, Water)

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Nest: This could be related to the classic nesting syndrome most pregnant women experiencearound their due dates. Dreams of a nest may be your mind’s way of alerting you to some important preparatory details left undone. (Also see Birds, Forests)

Nudity: Nudity represents feelings of vulnerability and symbolizes how a pregnant woman’s condition is exposed to the entire world. (Also see Pregnancy)

Oceans, Lakes, and Rivers: Water represents fertility, motherhood, and the flow and movement of life. A woman who dreams of water is likely experiencing a deep connection with her pregnancy, and is very tuned-in to the more primal aspects of it. (Also see Airplanes, Bridge, Journey, Water)

Opening: Dreaming of opening a gift, or opening a series of doors, could refer to the imminent birth and opening up of a new area of your life. (Also see Key)

Past: People, places, and events from your past likely represent unresolved issues that need to be addressed. (Also see Boyfriends/Girlfriends, Infidelity, Sex)

Performing: If you dream of being on stage or performing, it could represent insecurity about how well you will play your part as a mother. (Also see Movie Stars)

Pregnancy: If you dream of being pregnant, it is likely that you are attempting to conceive or have some unresolved issues surrounding having children. (Also see Babies, Birth, Family, Girl, Miscarriage, Twins)

Quilt: This could represent family and old-fashioned values, part of the nesting process.

Rainbow: This is a beautiful symbol representing your feelings about your pregnancy.

Ring: A ring symbolizes commitment and connection. Loss of a ring in a dream suggests disappointment in a relationship. (Also see Marriage, Husband)

School: This is a classic anxiety dream, reflecting insecurity about your abilities in certain areas of your life.

Sex: Just as dreams of eating food could indicate a lack of certain nutrients in your diet, dreams of sex could signify a need for more sex, or at least more romance! It can also represent a woman’s joy at the role she is playing in the life cycle. There is no denying it—sex is a critical component of pregnancy! (Also see Boyfriends/Girlfriends, Husband, Infidelity, Marriage)

Snake: Due to their phallic shape, snakes represent sex; they also indicate growth and wisdom. (Also see Animals, Zoos)

Stairs: Stairs appear frequently in dreams as a symbol of movement and advancement toward a goal. Stairs also represent sex, according to our friend Sigmund Freud, due to the rhythmic nature of climbing them. (Also see Castles, Homes, Houses)

Storms: Violent storms, hurricanes, and tornadoes reflect instability, especially among family members.

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Telephone: The telephone symbolizes communication. Difficulty using a telephone in a dream often indicates frustration or blocked communication.

Traffic: This is a common element in anxiety dreams as the subconscious plays through various scenarios of what could go wrong. (Also see Car, Journey)

Twins: Dreams of twins do not necessarily indicate that you will be having twins. More likely you are meeting your child, who in the dream is the other half of you. (Also see Babies, Birth, Family, Girl, Miscarriage, Pregnancy)

Trains: Indicates movement or motion in life, especially where career or relationships are concerned. (Also see Airplanes, Journey)

Uniform: Dreams that contain this symbol may be expressing your resentment at assuming the “uniform” of motherhood. Perhaps you worry you will be constrained by the role in some way.

Walking: If you are dreaming of going on long walks, it could symbolize the journey of pregnancy, or it could be a more literal meaning of needing to get more exercise. (Also see Journey)

Water: This is a common element in dreams. Water represents emotion, the womb, and fertility.The behavior of the water is key. Is it buoying you up, or pulling you along in a swift current? (Also see Baths, Bridge, Flowers, Journey, Oceans, Lakes, and Rivers)

Weaving: This is a common metaphor for the process of producing life.

Whale: The whale is a powerful symbol of feminine power and creativity. (Also see Animals, Oceans, Lakes, and Rivers, Water, Zoos)

Zoo: A pregnant woman often feels as though she is in a zoo—everyone is looking at her and there is no place to hide! If zoos figure prominently in your dreams, it could be a sign that you need to create more private space for yourself. (Also see Animals, Birds, Cat, Dolphin, Snake, Whale)

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Vivid Dreams

Have you been experiencing a lot of strange dreams lately? Perhaps you have dreamt about walking around naked in front of a crowd? Maybe you have dreamt that you have given birth to a chipmunk or even a fish? Though these dreams may be strange, rest assured they are a very common occurrence during pregnancy. In fact, the majority of pregnant women report an increasing number of vivid dreams throughout the three trimesters of pregnancy. But why do these vivid dreams occur so frequently during pregnancy and what can you do about them?

Dream Deluge
Pregnancy is a time of many changes, both physical and emotional. From morning sickness to breast tenderness, mood swings to constipation, the changes often seem limitless when it comes to pregnancy. And one of the biggest changes that pregnant women notice is an increase in their number of dreams. You may notice that you experience an increase in all types of dreams, including:
● joyful dreams
● anxiety dreams
● nightmares

You may also notice that your dreams appear to be more detailed than normal, and are filled with fantastic colors and more vivid features than prior to pregnancy.

Are Pregnancy Dreams Normal?
Though these vivid dreams can often be confusing and even frightening, it is entirely normal to experience a large number of dreams during pregnancy. There are a variety of reasons that can help explain this dramatic increase in dreams:
● Pregnancy Hormones: Throughout your pregnancy, your body pumps out a variety of different hormones, including progesterone and estrogen. It is thought that these hormones affect the way we sleep at night, causing us to experience longer periods of REM sleep. It is during REM sleep that our minds begin to dream.
● Increased Waking: Pregnant women are much more likely to wake up during the night than women who aren’t pregnant. Whether you have a leg cramp or a backache, you may find that you wake up several times every night. When your body wakes up from a deep sleep, it has better dream recall than it would had you slept through the night. This means that you may be experiencing more vivid dreams simply because your body is better at recalling them.
● Pregnancy Anxiety: Pregnancy is a time of distinct changes, many of which are scary and overwhelming. You probably have a number of anxieties over becoming a parent: for instance, you may worry how you will handle having a baby and if you will be a capable mother. Our subconscious mind often works through these anxieties while we are sleeping, in the form of dreams.

Common Pregnancy Dreams
Many pregnant women experience dreams that are similar in content or theme. Some commonly-reported pregnancy dreams include:
● dreams of falling
● dreams of running
● dreams of being trapped
● dreams of baby’s gender
● dreams of baby’s appearance
● dreams of labor and delivery

Don’t be surprised if many of these are unpleasant in nature. Because of all the anxiety and stress that pregnant women experience, dreams often take on a frightening tone. But this is simply your mind’s way of working out your worries and fears. You will also find that much of your excitement about pregnancy also translates into your dreams.

Dream Development by Trimester
Many dream studies have shown that dreams tend to change from trimester to trimester of pregnancy. During the first trimester, women have reported dreaming of water and water symbols. This may be because of the increased amniotic fluid inside of your womb. During the second trimester, women report an increase in dreams about animals. This could be triggered by the your baby’s increased development and movement inside of your body. And during the third trimester, dreams are much more likely to be about baby himself, and may focus on giving birth or caring for baby after he is born.

Dealing with Your Dreams
Many women find that their vivid pregnancy dreams are quite enjoyable, while others find them disturbing and worrisome. However you feel, it is important not to take your dreams literally.

Dreams are made up of various images and emotions that are present in the subconscious, and don’t contain literal meaning. However, you may find it useful to record the basic themes of your dreams, so that you can discuss them with your partner or friends. Discussing dreams is a great way to make sense of them, and can often help take the worry out of frightening ones. It can also be good for a much-needed laugh sometimes too!

If you find that you are still worried about your dreams even after discussing them with your partner, discuss them with your health care provider. She can reassure you that everything is just fine with you and baby.

Goodnight, Sleep Tight
If you are finding that your pregnancy dreams are really interrupting your sleep patterns, here are a few tips to ensure that you get a good night’s sleep!

● Try to ensure that your room is cool and dark. Remove all electronics (such as radios and televisions) and put away anything that might increase your anxiety (like that pile of laundry waiting to be washed!).
● Avoid exercising before bedtime. Instead, find time to exercise during the day.
● Avoid drinking a lot of water right before bed. If you drink a lot, you will find that you wake up during the night with a full bladder, which could actually increase the number of dreams that you experience.
● Do your best to clear your mind of all anxieties and worries before bedtime. Try a few relaxing stretches or breathing exercises to help clear your mind.

In the next article, we will share with you if your dreams will tell you the gender of your baby! Stay tuned!

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Tips on Confinement Care & Recipes

We have many clients who told us, they want the modern confinement. Sure why not. We are not living in old times now, not like our  great-grandmother times who have to strictly follow the confinement rules because of their environment and weather. Such as no washing of hair, this is because of the cold weather, therfore the rule of no washing hair during confinement period. And why only use boiled water? It is because in the ancient times, people drink and bath from the well. And it is easy to get infection from untreated water.

We have always heard about the saying “Don’t wash your hair during confinement” but here is to an explanation, why it is essential to keep yourself clean and hygienic. Even our confinement nanny disagreed with this saying.

As we stay in a warm and humid tropical Asia country like Singapore, we tend to perspire more and if you do not wash your hair (for the whole of confinement!), you may get dandruffs, inflammation of the scalp or even suffer severe hair loss.

In a normal circumstances, it is perfectly alright to wash your hair and keep yourself clean.

Just a few points to take note of 🙂

  1. You may wash your hair few days (or some who wants to follow the more traditional rules, may do so after a week or 12 days) after the delivery but take note the water must be warm, the ideal temperature would be  40-45°c. There must not be too drastic temperature changes in the room and the bathroom, imagine stepping out of the hot shower into a cold air-con room. That is a big NO-NO! Make sure your windows are closed but with good air flow, to avoid catching a cold.
  2. Confinement nanny will brew the herbal bath 大风草 for you and you can wash your hair using the herbal bath. Confinement nanny may add in few pieces of ginger into the bath water. This is to purge out wind and effectively ‘seal’ the pores from getting the wind inside your body.
  3. Your bathing time must not be too long, and once done, please use a hair dryer to blow dry your hair immediately. This is to prevent headaches and arthritis.
  4. Please do not bath in the early morning when the weather is still cool or at night when the temperature has dropped. This is to prevent dampness from entering the body. The best time to bath is between 2pm and 5pm.

Some mommies will choose to wipe with rice wine, but not many can tolerate the smell. Our suggestion is to keep yourself clean and hygienic, especially during breastfeeding period.

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The benefits of turmeric rice (Recipe by our confinement nanny) 

There are many medicine benefits using turmeric as a spices,
you can even use it in your confinement food.

Turmeric is warm in nature, it can help with blood circulation and expel the wind, it also can help with the womb recovery.
If your appetite is low, turmeric can help to stimulate or increase your appetite.

Ingredients
1 cup of White Rice
Half cup of water
Turmeric powder/half teaspoon of turmeric juice
A pinch of salt
1 stalk of lemongrass
3 leaves of pandan
minced ginger half teaspoon
cooking oil 1 teaspoon


Cooking method:

  1. Coat the wok with some cooking oil. Once it heat up, pour in the minced ginger and fry until fragrant.
  2. Mix the white rice, turmeric powder and salt together, and pour inside the heated wok, stir fry it a little.
  3. Pour the stir-fried rice into the cooking pot, add water and put in lemongrass,pandan leaves and cook as per normal.

There you go, a delicious meal with plenty of health benefits!

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Papaya fish soup for breast milk supply (Recipe by our confinement nanny) 

For milk boosting soup, here is one of the most popular soup – The papaya fish soup.

Why papaya? Why not pineapple or other fruits? Reason is because of the rich enzyme  in papaya, that is especially effective for breastfeeding mums.

Ingredients:
Half green papaya 200g
Fish bone 1/2 kg
Ginger 5 slices
枸杞 a handful
Water 1 cup

Cooking method
1 Heat the frying pan, fry the fish bones till golden brown.
2 Add water into the soup pot, add in the fried fish bones
3 Simmer for 50 minutes till it becomes milky color.
4 Add papaya into the soup and continue to simmer for another 30 minutues.
5 Once its cooked, add 枸杞 to it and enjoy. 

Our confinement nanny also shared what are the food that new mums should avoid during their confinement such as Radish, cabbage, salted vegetables, banana, pineapple, orange and pears should be avoided.

Most importantly, new mums should have a balanced diet full of protein, vitamins and minerals. Do not take too much of a good stuff either. Try to rest as much as possible, let our confinement nanny do the work for you. Enjoy your confinement period, let our confinement nanny pamper you like a Queen. 🙂

This article is brought to you by STAR Confinement Nanny 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

10 foods to boost breastmilk supply

Fenugreek

This herb has aromatic seeds that are typically used for their flavor, such as in curry. We’re going to take these granules and turn them into a brew. To prepare, bring a pot of water to boil, then add two tablespoons of fenugreek and let it steep for about 15 minutes. If you want just a cupful, add two teaspoons of granules to a boiling mug of water instead. Fenugreek tablets are also available from pharmacies, but make sure to consume according to instructions.

Aromatic seeds

Apart from increasing milk production, aromatic seeds like anise, coriander and dill are ideal for clearing the digestive system and combating colic. To brew, place a spoonful of your selection of seeds (they can be mixed) in a cup, then fill with a suitable amount of boiling water and leave it to steep for about 8 minutes. If you prefer your tea sweet, add honey to taste.

Fennel Tea

Fennel tea can be found in sachet packets in most supermarkets island wide. Steep your teabag in a cup of hot water for three to five minutes, then drink throughout the day. Alternatively, you could combine fennel seeds with hot barley water, which also increases your breastmilk supply and neutralises after-pains.

Hops Flowers

Expectant mums carrying twins should consider hops, an old remedy that works best when taken before bed. Apart from inducing sleepiness, hops also helps the body stimulate a rich supply of milkflow. Available in loose tea and sachet packs.

Brewer’s Yeast

It’s long been believed drinking beer increases lactation. We don’t advice you do that during pregnancy, though! In fact, it’s the brewers yeast found in beer that’s responsible for boosting breastmilk production. Purchase them in power form from a pharmacy and prepare as directed

Raspberry Leaves

Raspberry leaves help replenish your body with a generous amount of minerals that may have been lost after nursing your little one. It has little to no side effects, making it ideal for all mums! To make this, steep a suitable amount of leaves in boiling water for at least four hours.

Alfafa

Available as a food or in dried or powdered form, it’s best to have a chat with your doctor about working alfalfa into your diet. And don’t go overboard: alfalfa should not be consumed several weeks before you’re due, or you may struggle with an overabundant supply of breastmilk.

Carotene-rich foods

Carrots, asparagus, sweet potatoes and tomatoes are just some examples of foods that are rich in carotene and can increase lactation, so load up on them! And the more well-cooked something is, the more carotenes are released. Tomato sauce, for example, has approximately 2000 times more carotenes than that of a fresh tomato.

Blessed Thistle and Goat’s Rue

Blessed thistle has been used for years, particularly in the Mediterranean region of Europe, to increase milk supply. Goat’s rue has a similar effect, but you may experience nausea initially, so talk to your pharmacist to determine if it’s suitable for you. Both herbs can be found in pharmacies.

Borage Leaves

Although often well-regarded for its ability to boost milk production, borage leaves contain compounds that could affect an infant’s liver, so drink this only after your pregnancy — and as a weak tea. Soak a spoonful of leaves in water for 3 to 4 minutes, and consume once or twice a day.

Article reproduced from Pregnant.sg!

Lactation Cookies Recipe – Ingredients Prep time: approx. 15 minutes Oven temp: preheat to 170C or 338F Makes approx. 14-16 cookies, using a dessert spoon per cookie (double the recipe for more) When making these lactation cookies, please try to source organic, local ingredients wherever possible. They’re so much better for you. I’ve tried to use healthy alternatives where I can, however the lactation cookies need to be sweet enough to hide the very bitter taste of one of the most powerful ingredients. – See more at: https://www.bellybelly.com.au/breastfeeding/lactation-cookies.

If you’re already breastfeeding, try eating the dough as well as the cookies, as it seems to be even more effective at increasing supply. Do not eat uncooked dough if you are pregnant. There is a risk of bacterial infection from eating raw egg. 1 cup self raising wholemeal flour (if you have plain flour, add 1/2 teaspoon baking powder) 1/2 cup butter (for a healthier option, use organic, virgin coconut oil instead – it’s super good for you!) 3/4 cup brown sugar (if you want to reduce sugar, you could try just 1/2 cup) 2 tablespoons flaxseed meal 1 egg 2-3 tablespoons of water (depends on how moist you prefer the cookies to be) 1 tablespoon vanilla extract (optional, for flavour) 1 teaspoon cinnamon (optional, for flavour) 1-2 tablespoons of brewers yeast – do not substitute with bakers yeast or any other yeast 1/2 teaspoon salt – use himalayan salt if possible 1 & 1/2 cups oats – organic, steel cut oats are best for you, but rolled oats are fine OPTIONAL: 1/2 cup of your favourite biscuit ingredients (see suggested list below) DO NOT  leave out or substitute the brewers yeast when making lactation cookies. It’s one of the main ingredients that makes them work. Nutritional yeast and bakers yeast are different and will not work in the same way.

Lactation Cookies Recipe – Method In a large mixing bowl, cream the butter and sugar, then add the egg and vanilla. Mix well. In a separate bowl, combine the flaxseed and water, let them sit for a few minutes before adding to mix. Add the dry ingredients (apart from the oats and your additional ingredients) and mix well again. Finally, stir in the oats and your additional ingredients. Make the biscuits (I use a dessert spoon as a rough size guide) and place them onto a lightly greased or lined baking tray. Flatten them a little with your fingers or a spatula – if you like a soft centre, don’t squash them down too much. If you like you can just make them into balls – I do this and I love the soft centre! Bake the lactation cookies for around 10-12 minutes, depending on how well cooked or crunchy you like your biscuits. “I know they worked for me, because I squirted after eating them for a bit, and I hadn’t done that for months” — PumpkinZulu Boosting Your Lactation Cookies For Better Results Try the above lactation cookies recipe first, but if you don’t notice much of an increase in supply, add more brewers yeast. If you like, add more flaxseed meal too, but don’t forget to increase the water when you add more dry ingredients. Add a tablespoon of water for each tablespoon of flaxseed meal. If the lactation cookies aren’t working or for supply issues in general, please get some reliable help from a qualified lactation consultant or breastfeeding support organisation. Lactation Cookies – Ingredient and Variation Ideas There are so many delicious ingredients you can add to your lactation cookies to flavour them up! You might like to add coconut, banana, grated apple, chic chips, sultanas, almonds, macadamia nuts, walnuts, chopped dried apricots, chopped prunes, dates… the list is endless. Our members have made variations of the lactation cookies recipe by using these delicious combinations: Coconut and banana Choc chip and cranberry White choc chips and macadamias Dried apricot and white chocolate Apple cinnamon: 1 teaspoon of cinnamon instead of vanilla, 1/2 cup chopped dried apple and 1/2 cup sultanas. BellyBelly member, Audax, also added 2 tablespoons of stewed apple and found the cookies turned out lovely and moist. For a healthier cookie, replace some or all of the butter with virgin coconut oil, which is SO good for your body (inside and out). Virgin coconut oil has a mountain of benefits, including anti-fungal and anti-bacterial properties. Choose an organic oil if you can. For more benefits of coconut oil, visit the Coconut Research Center website. For a healthier, more fibre rich flour, use 50% or 100% coconut flour (you might need to add an extra egg). If you only have regular white flour to make lactation cookies, it’s fine, but remember it’s the most unhealthy flour. – See more at: https://www.bellybelly.com.au/breastfeeding/lactation-cookies/

How to interview your confinement nanny

If you’re thinking of following the traditional Singapore Chinese practice of confinement, you might consider hiring a confinement nanny.

A confinement nanny is typically a mature woman who has plenty of experience in confinement practices and wisdom to help you recovery quickly from delivery and nourish your body back to full health.

With changing times, however, many women today either choose not to practice confinement or choose to do it on their own. If you’re trying to decide what to do, here are a few questions to ask yourself to see if you need a confinement nanny.

What does a confinement nanny do?

A confinement nanny serves the purpose of:

  • Educating new mums and dads on the practices of confinement
  • Buying or guiding the family on what ingredients and herbs to buy for confinement
  • Preparing all the special confinement meals for the family
  • Doing the laundry
  • Bathing and soothing the baby
  • Feeding the baby (unless you prefer to breastfeed)

You should bear in mind that a confinement nanny is not a domestic helper but a postpartum companion for you and the baby. If you have older children, it won’t be her responsibility to babysit them, although you could perhaps negotiate this with her. You should not expect her to undertake major household cleaning aside from ensuring dishes are washed and things are kept tidy.

Finding a confinement nanny is not an easy task as this is not a profession that is very common in Singapore but highly in demand. Many turn to an agency to hire a confinement lady or use their contacts to hire a nanny from nearby Malaysia. However, there are a number of risks involved, especially if you’ve never met the person. Given the expense and the commitment involved, it’s best to at least conduct at least a phone interview with the confinement nanny of your choice, if not an in-person meet up.

To make sure you’re bringing the right person into your home that will help you get through confinement, make a list of interview questions you want to ask. Start with these six:

1. “How many years of experience do you have as a confinement lady?”

The more experienced your confinement nanny is, the better. However, just note that unless she is personally recommended to you by someone you know who has used her services, you won’t know what she is like at all. If you do not have a personal recommendation, ask for previous clients that you can call for references to ensure you’ll be happy with her services.

2. “What kinds of food will you prepare during the confinement period?”

You should ask how many meals your confinement nanny will prepare a day, and whether this food is for you only, or for your husband and other children too. Find out what variety of dishes she knows how to cook and if she is prepared to cook something different everyday so you don’t get bored. Also ask if she will prepare snacks between meals if you get hungry.

3.  “What are your preferences in terms of shopping for herbs or groceries?”

It is tempting to let your confinement nanny take care of everything from buying the herbs to the groceries. However, you may find yourself paying a hefty bill for them later on. Some confinement nannies get commissions from buying herbs from certain retailers, and may not be getting you the best price. To be cautious, it is better you source for your own herbs. If you wish her to do the groceries, establish a firm budget with her.

3. “What kind of household chores can you carry out?”

Different confinement nannies will carry out different types of household chores. At most basic, they will typically clean up the kitchen after cooking, do the laundry and do simple sweeping or mopping. Don’t expect anything intensive, as she is not your domestic helper.

4. “How do you handle the baby? Is she familiar with breastfeeding?”

You can get an idea on how your confinement nanny cares for a baby by asking her questions like how she handles the umbilical cord, bathes, burps and soothes the baby. If you are breastfeeding, be sure to hire a nanny who is pro-breastfeeding and who is knowledgeable about it. The last thing you want is a nanny nagging at you to formula feed when you have problems producing milk.

 

5. “Where will you sleep and who will sleep with the baby?”

Most confinement nannies understand that space is limited in Singaporean homes and are okay with sleeping on a mattress on a floor, although a bed is preferable. Usually, they sleep with the baby, but if you are breastfeeding, you would want the baby with you so you can breastfeed during the night.

6. “Do you have extra charges for peak periods, other services?  Do you have an early dismissal fee?”

Be sure to discuss all fee related questions during your interview to avoid surprises. If you want any extra services, e.g. babysitting an older child, this is the time to negotiate an extra fee for it. The question about early dismissal may be awkward but it is important. While you can send an agency nanny back for replacement with no charge, a confinement nanny you hire independently will expect to be compensated for her loss of income.

Reproduced Article from Pregnant.Sg! 

 

Breastmilk boosters!

Is it safe to eat spicy food during breastfeeding?

To all the breastfeeding moms. For an ample supply of breast milk, one have to eat nutritious food and may even need to take more calories and protein than average. Because breastfeeding burns calories! *yay* Thats why some mommies can resume their figure very fast by breastfeeding their babies.

However, there are some food that are unsuitable (said so by our confinement nanny) while breastfeeding.

  1. Hot spicy stuffs. Try not to eat food like chili, alcohol, tea or coffee because these stimulants will enter the baby’s bloodstream via breastmilk.
  2. Some food are to be omitted from your diet such as Chives, malt (anything that contains malt/barley, like horlicks, barley tea), Ginseng. Because these food will decrease breast milk.
  3. Fruits that are “cooling” by nature such as honeydew, watermelon, pear, peach, orange.. Try to minimize these fruits intake as they will cause baby to bloat up.

Get plenty of rest as well as hydrate yourself well. That is why confinement nanny take care of newborn 24-hours, so that mommy can rest well and focus on building up her milk supply. Eat well, sleep well and pump well.

Lactation cookies:  

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The top worry that mothers have while breastfeeding is whether they are producing enough milk for their growing bub. If you feel that your supply might be running low, give lactation cookies a go. Baked with ingredients that help boost milk production, they double up as a tasty treat for mums. Get your dose of milk-producing cookies from these local lactation bakers to aid you on your breastfeeding journey. While there are so many brand of lactation cookies out there, from A – Z.. Which one to buy from? And so we went on a tasting spree… some are too chewy, some are just lacking in taste, some are too soft…. until we came across one baker called “The Little Darling Lactation Cookies” This gotta be one of the best for now. It is just perfect. Crispy, fresh ingredients, you can taste the delicious oats and real chocolates that is.. so addictive. Gosh I swear I could feel the fireworks in my mouth! Seriously, this could even double up as a healthy snack. It is even more addictive than “Salted Egg Potato Chips” to be really honest! They are only selling at $7.00 from 100g onwards.

P.S. Don’t need to quote STAR Confinement Nanny because you won’t get any discount as this is not a sponsored post, it is just an honest feedback from an honest consumer. Hohoho.

Interestingly, they also selling Lactation Booster Overnight Oat.

Lactation Booster Overnight Oat Daily Pack
>> Easy Breakfast
>> Time Saving
>> Soak them with Fresh Milk (Cold), store in the fridge at night, next morning Ready to be Consume

We have yet to try this but lt looks really delicious, and it is said to aid mother’s milk too. For all the nutrients inside, I am sure this will be gold milk! *However, if you’re doing confinement, try to abstain from eating cold stuffs as Chinese believe, this will introduce a lot of wind in your body. Try to warm up a little, and it will benefit greatly.

Alternatively, you may try ordering fenugreek to boost milk supply. There are also a few herbs that will boost mother’s milk.

For of course, the most popular papaya fish soup. We also learnt from our Confinement nanny that is a *secret* to it’s sweet milky color. If you doesn’t know this secret, then you would been wasting your time making fishy tasting soup.  Confinement Nanny have secret to cooking, just like their years of experiences in taking care of newborns, they have years of cooking confinement food.

And confinement nanny will make a lot of confinement soup during your confinement period. You can try to ask them for the recipes. Be sure to note it down!

Do you have any questions for us? Or any recipes you would like us to share? Or anything you want to ask us about confinement, feel free to comment! 🙂

 

NEXT…. 

A reader asked us, how to do work permit for confinement nanny?

So we’ll now talk about how to extension confinement nanny work permit.

First, you must do it at least 14-days in advance. To apply for nanny’s work permit, you can go to Ministry of Manpower.

http://www.mom.gov.sg/passes-and-permits/work-permit-for-confinement-nanny/apply-for-permit

To extend confinement nanny’s work permit, you will need to login to your SINGPASS and click extend worker’s work permit.

NEXT, go to isubmit and fill in your particulars, select option 5 and asked for extension of nanny’s social visit pass. Usually it is 30 days and if you wish to extend beyond that, you MUST extend the social visit pass too.

And then wait for MOM’s reply. When nanny’s goes home, remember to give her the print out of her work permit and her letter of extension of visit.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Confinement Rules – Follow or Not?

Hello everyone! We write this blog just to share some information regarding confinement, confinement period, confinement nanny, confinement food or confinement agency’s knowledge to you. Hoping it will help some mommies and daddies in someway.

We’re currently doing a roadshow here at Singapore Expo, Hall 5 – Booth G23! Come and speak to our friendly consultants! 🙂 We will be here from 13 October to 15 October 2017 🙂

We can’t help but notice there are a few mommies, wearing sleeveless, shorts and slippers, bringing their less than a month old baby out. Being in this confinement industry, definitely we were shocked. As the confinement rules goes – confinement period? Well to be honest, YES and NO. Being at home, a confinement nanny is able to take care of you, cooking nutritious meals and brewing herbal tonics for you to recuperate on your health. Of course we understand, sometimes there is a need to go out to buy things, some did not engage confinement nanny’s help etc. However, do keep yourself warm.. You certainly do not need to cover up like a dumpling, but there are some points you need to take note of, particularly your top of the head, hands, back, stomach, neck and feet. This is where the “wind” will enter. If one having low immunity, she may even catch a cold during the confinement period. So if you must go out, especially to a strong aircon place like Singapore Expo, please cover these points. And unless you really need to dash for these sales, try not to go to crowded places like this, especially with your newborn baby. This is because newborn still have low immunity and with crowded places like this, it is easy to catch a virus. So steer clear of these places as much as possible. And fair enough, if you are feeling really bored during your confinement, you can go out, but we encourage you to go to places like the garden or park, where there is fewer people and no air pollution. A few places we would recommend to confinement mommies : Botanic Garden, Garden By the Way, Marina Barrage etc. These are places where you can stroll along and feel relaxed. Remember, confinement doesn’t have to be bored! But just remember to wear enough to keep the vital points warm! 🙂

What happens if you catch a chill during your confinement period? You may want to see a doctor and ask for breastfeeding safe medication. However, some traditional confinement nannies may offer a “a special  drink” called “Wild chicken wine” 毛鸡酒 – Seriously. It is uncommon in Singapore but quite common in Malaysia. It is said to relieve chills effectively. But the method of preparation is questionable because it is home-made and a cruel method which includes drowning the poor chicken in alcohol and the soaking in entirely into the wine bottle. OMG!

Many mommies do not like “naggy” confinement nannies because they felt that they had read in a book that it is not true. Debunk the confinement myths! What the confinement nannies can say is. For the entire 28-days, it is their responsibility to take good care of you. It is their duty to look after you, like a daughter or like a princess, such that if you caught any cold or feel unwell during this period, they will bad about it. Thus they can appear to be “naggy” because they want the best for you.

Some mommies may be more westernized because the westerners doesn’t have or don’t do confinement unlike we Chinese. That is because our body constitution is different. And definitely our diets are different. Our genes are different too. But believe it or not, confinement really helps! It can build up a weak body constitution into a stronger one. A confinement nanny once told us, that if a mommy used to have headaches, after a good confinement, she no longer suffers from painful headaches! And one mommy who used to suffer from cold hands and feets, after a good confinement period, her hands and feets are mostly warm now. And she doesn’t catch a cold as easily as before.

Of course, some confinement rules you can do without, some you just have to follow. But do make sure you have a good confinement meals. It not only helps to boost your health and also your breastmilk!

Have a happy and enjoyable confinement period! 🙂

For engaging our STAR Confinement nannies, feel free to check out www.facebook.com/star.confinement

Our website is www.starconfinementnanny.com.sg

 

 

 

 

Pre-Natal Anxiety & Depression During Pregnancy

Everybody’s talking about post-natal depression, but do you know that research has shown that up to 33 percent of women experience clinical depression or an anxiety disorder at some point during pregnancy. Yet some studies indicate that fewer than 20 percent seek treatment, and that treatment is often inadequate. As naturally, pregnant women have a lot of worries on their mind, especially on their unborn baby. “Would my baby be normal?” “Would the one piece of sashimi I ate just now harm my unborn baby?” “Would the renovation next door put my unborn baby at risk?” “Would the loud noise I walked past just now injured my baby’s hearing?” etc etc….. Why do we think like this? Because, we are MOTHERS. And mothers naturally protect their children (maternal instinct). As such, we suffered from anxieties and sometimes depression.

Everybody’s heard of post-natal depression… Have you heard of pre-natal depression/ pre-natal anxiety? It could manifest itself as a form of worrying/negative thoughts that never goes away, and then it turns into depression if you didn’t seek timely help.  Speak to your doctor, your friends, don’t coop up all inside. Talk about your fears, talk about your day, anything. It helps. Do pre-natal yoga, have a walk in the park, relax and breathe. 🙂

Our confinement nannies shared with us some stories of mommies having depression. We feel really sad and therefore we write this article, and hope that it would help to bring awareness to the public on pre-natal depression/anxiety is as equally as important.

If you experience post-natal depression during your confinement, you can speak to the confinement nanny too. Having experienced with many mommies, the confinement nanny is able to give you some advice and most importantly, whip up some nice confinement food to make you happy!

Symptoms of Depression and Anxiety

It can be tricky to diagnose mood disorders during pregnancy because “some of the symptoms can overlap with symptoms of pregnancy, such as changes in appetite, energy levels, concentration, or sleep,” Dr. Smith says. “It’s also normal to have some degree of worry over the health of the pregnancy.” But if you experience persistent symptoms of depression and/or anxiety, especially if you’re unable to function normally, get help.

Symptoms of depression include:

    • Being in a depressed mood most of the time for at least two weeks
    • No longer enjoying the things you used to enjoy
    • Decreased interest in the world around you
    • Guilt
    • A sense of worthlessness
    • Low energy
    • Poor concentration
    • Appetite changes
    • Feeling hopeless
    • Thoughts of suicide
    • Getting too much sleep, or not enough sleep
 The symptoms of anxiety vary by type of anxiety disorder, and include:

Generalized Anxiety Disorder:

  • Excessive worry that’s difficult to control
  • Irritability
  • Tension/muscle aches
  • Disrupted sleep patterns
  • Feeling restless inside
  • Fatigue
  • Poor concentration

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder:

  • Recurrent, persistent, intrusive thoughts
  • Compulsions to relieve those thoughts through repetitive thoughts or behaviors

Panic disorder:

  • Recurrent panic attacks
  • Persistent fear of having a panic attack

Risk Factors for Anxiety and Depression

Anyone can experience depression or anxiety during pregnancy, but women with these risk factors are especially susceptible:

  • A personal or family history of a mood disorder, such as depression or anxiety
  • A history of premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD)
  • Being a young mother (under the age of 20)
  • Having poor social support
  • Living alone
  • Experiencing marital conflict
  • Being divorced, widowed, or separated
  • Having experienced traumatic or stressful events in the past year
  • Feeling ambivalent about being pregnant
  • Pregnancy complications
  • Having a low income
  • Having more than three children

Risks of Untreated Anxiety and Depression During Pregnancy

“There are well documented, but often overlooked, consequences of untreated depression and anxiety during pregnancy for the fetus and the mother,” Dr. Smith says. Risks to developing babies whose mothers have untreated depression or anxiety during pregnancy include:

  • Low birthweight
  • Premature birth (before 37 weeks)
  • Low APGAR score (which rates a newborn’s health after delivery)
  • Poor adaptation outside the womb, including respiratory distress and jitteriness

Risks to the mother include:

  • Suicide
  • Pregnancy termination
  • Postpartum depression or anxiety
  • Use of substances such as alcohol or drugs
  • Impaired attachment to the baby
  • Not taking good care of her physical health
  • Preeclampsia
  • Preterm labor
  • Having a C-section

Treatment Options

There are several therapies that don’t involve medication and are therefore considered generally safe for a developing baby. For women who need medication, there are low-risk options that can deliver real relief.

Nonmedicinal Approaches
The following treatments have been shown to help pregnant women with mild to moderate depression.

  • Psychotherapy, such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), in which a skilled therapist teaches new approaches to managing thoughts and emotions
  • Omega-3 essential fatty acids, which are found in foods such as oily fish and walnuts, and can act as a natural mood-booster
  • Light therapy, in which patients are exposed to artificial sunlight at specific times of the day to help relieve depression symptoms
  • Acupuncture, a Chinese practice that (in this case) involves placing tiny needles into areas of the body thought to influence mood

Antidepressant Medication
If you’re currently taking medication for depression or anxiety, consult your psychiatrist before you stop. A 2006 study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association showed that “women who discontinued an antidepressant around conception had a 68 percent chance of recurrence of depression during pregnancy, compared to 26 percent for those women who continued their medication,” says Stephanie Ho, M.D., a reproductive psychiatrist in private practice in New York City. Of those that relapsed, the majority had to restart their medication during pregnancy.

Finding Support and Specialists
If you’re pregnant and you’re having depression and/or anxiety symptoms, talk to your ob-gyn or midwife. She should be able to treat you directly, or connect you with the appropriate mental health care provider. These organizations can also offer confidential help:

Sleep Secrets Shared By Mommies

People who say they sleep like a baby usually don’t have one,” author Leo J Burke so cleverly interpreted it. We understand how exhausting it can be when your newborn doesn’t sleep and keep crying at night. We will share with you some sleep secrets as below, as shared by other mommies. 🙂
Some babies sleep in the day but becomes a party animal when the moon rises.  According to PD, this is normal. It is because the babies are not aware of the difference of day and night. Your baby need to sleep and be fed throughout so as to grow and develop normally. She needs to eat around the clock at first but will gradually sleep more at night and less during the day. You can begin to teach your baby the difference between night and day by behaving differently at different times. During the day, talk to your baby more while you feed her. Keep it light and bright. At night, be more subdued and quiet. Keep the lighting down. Eventually, she’ll catch on and begin to sleep more at night. If your baby tends to sleep all day, dozing through her feedings, try waking her up to eat. She needs to learn that the longest sleeping period is during the night. Help her to be a bit more organised at this point by taking her into the center of family activity at around late afternoon. Even if she dozes, keep her upright in an infant seat, carrier, or bouncy chair. Then give her a bath around early evening. This will keep her awake and relax her for her long sleep (four to five hours, hopefully) ahead.  No child “sleeps through the night”, but babies do reach the point where they can get themselves back to sleep when they wake up periodically. Your baby may cry due to hungry, wet diaper  or may also be due to being gassy (wind in tummy),  feeling too warm or cold, needs a cuddle or simply looking for comfort latch. If it is too often, speak to your PD. Your PD may recommend a professional sleep consultant on how to train your baby to sleep better.
But what happens when a baby cries all night even after giving her milk, rubbing on the tummies, cuddling, carrying, swaddling but it all don’t work? We understand how frustrating as one can be, here we are going to talk about some of the interesting methods shared by some of the mommies whom our confinement nannies had encountered. Have you experienced or remember the sleep methods of what our mama or grandma used to do (to make us sleep well) when we were young? Talking about old Chinese beliefs, we spoke to a few of our nannies and the interesting things that they have encountered in the course of their work.
Here are some of the interesting customs n beliefs practiced by Chinese families on old Chinese beliefs that were being passed down by generations. Based on zero scientific explanation, It may work or it may not work, well just for the fun of it!
1. “床头母” aka Bed’s Guardian Angel or simply FairyBed’s Mother… More commonly prayed by the Hainanese, Hokkiens and Hakkas, it is said to seek blessings from the divine for protection over their little ones and to sleep well in the night, protect them from harm and bless them with abundance of good health, to grow up strong and healthy. Especially for kids 0 – 12 years old. Big kids (adults) too if they can’t sleep well at night. Interestingly, it worked for some. 🙂

How to pray to 床母 (chuang mu)

a. The duration should be short. Place the offerings (full month celebration type of food/confinement food) on the bed, light the joss sticks and then you can prepare to burn the offerings “四方金” and “床母衣”. If you spent too long in praying, hearsay the child will have a tendency to laze in bed next time because 床母 will pamper the child too much.

b. Do not scold and punish your kid infront of the bed.

c. No FISH meat to be offered to  床母

d. No chopsticks

e. No alcohol

Just take note of these reminders and your kids will be blessed by  床母 for a happy and healthy growth!

When to pray? Typically dong zhi  or on her birthday! 7th of the Seventh month. Which is 28/08/2017 for this year between 5pm to 7pm.

2. Turn the baby’s shirt and wear from inside out. OR turn the baby’s shirt inside out and hang it up on a hanger. (It worked for some, as claimed by a few of our confinement nannies..)

3. Put the daddy’s RED underwear in the babycot… Err.. well, we don’t know if the babies will feel more assured and secured thinking their daddies are Superman, maybe? And if you must put Superman daddy’s underwear, just make sure it is cleaned and washed… erm……… okay………

Sometimes it may be due to the baby gotten a fright, maybe the dog’s bark startle the baby or the airplane flew past etc.

Interestingly, one of the grandma shared “Call the baby’s name 7 times (in one breath) by his ear during at night, in the wee quiet hours. Boys left ear and girl right ear. She said it worked for all her grandchildren, they slept well after that. Worth a try perhaps?

We have many interesting stories to share but it is all based on superstitious beliefs which we will not touch on. The above were merely experiences shared by other mommies to our confinement nannies, interestingly some worked.

The only way to sleep like a baby now is after drinking 10 cans of beer. *Just kidding!*

Wishing you a sweet dreams~

 

 

 

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Confinement Agency VS Freelance Nannies

Today, we are going to discuss about the risks of hiring freelance nannies without confinement agency because it has come to our attention that some very notorious freelance nannies are cheating unsuspecting mommies and spoiling the good name and image of many other good confinement ladies and agencies. Not all that, it also gave the poor mommies a lot of undue stress and anxieties.

You see, if you compare using the services of a good confinement agency, you’re actually saving yourself a lot of monies and worries. Let us explain why.

First, you go through a list of licensed confinement nanny agencies and choose the confinement nanny agency you wish to hire the nanny from. Confinement agency have a large team of confinement nannies so you will be assured that there is definitely no “no-show”. Confinement agency definitely can guarantee you there will be a nanny on the day you’re discharged to help take care of you and newborn.

Second, confinement agencies are required to register with Ministry of Manpower to obtain a license so as to operate as employment agency. You can search for here http://www.mom.gov.sg/eservices/services/employment-agencies-and-personnel-search. Licensed confinement agencies will have to abide by MOM’s rules and regulations. Which also act as a safeguard for consumer’s interests. Freelance nannies or even unlicensed agents don’t have to follow rules, or can even play foul when deal sours. They may even dissuade customers from applying work permit for nannies as this would help “save costs”. It is illegal for a confinement nanny to work on a social visit pass. Employer will face a hefty fine and the confinement nanny will be fined and banned from coming into Singapore.

Third, If you use a freelance nannies, what happens if she last minute couldn’t turn up on your expected delivery or should you give birth earlier than expected? There are MANY cases of freelance confinement nannies disappearing after accepting deposits. There was no contract nor any proof that you be hiring her, unlike confinement agency where we have a valid contract and we will be responsible for our nannies.

Some will refer to their friend since they couldn’t do the job, and you as a customer, will be left worrying because you can’t get your deposit back from the freelance nanny and second, you’ll be worried if the friend is even qualified to be a confinement nanny. But since deposit is being paid to the freelance many, you have no choice but to follow suit. It’s a big risk because you don’t know who the freelance nanny will refer you. Unlike confinement agency, we QC our confinement nannies ensuring the standards of good character, good attitude and good experience.

A few classic examples:

Such is an example, Parent A booked and paid a deposit for Freelance Nanny B (whom she engaged through a friend’s recommendations). And one month before her EDD, Freelance Nanny B called her and said she couldn’t come as she is sick, and referred her friend Freelance Nanny C to do the confinement. Parent A has already paid Freelance Nanny B a deposit of $1000 (which the freelance nanny said is not refundable) and not wanting to lose her deposit, Parent A has no choice but to agreed and follow suit. This also left Parent A feeling perplexed and anxious as there will be a lot of “what if’s” about the nanny on her mind. This is totally undue stress caused to the new mother.

Another example,  Parent B booked Freelance Nanny D, and Freelance Nanny D couldn’t do it and referred her friend, Freelance Nanny E. After 10 days of confinement,  Parent B couldn’t take it anymore as he said he and his wife are always the one waking up at night to feed the baby as nanny wouldn’t do it. And he only slept for 2 hours everyday before going to work in the morning. This has also caused his wife to suffered from poor health and back pain. Parent B also said Freelance Nanny E did not cook any vegetables dishes as she said traditional confinement dishes do not have vegetables!? And they were eating the same food for everyday. Finally Parent B decided enough is enough and want her to leave his house immediately. Freelance Nanny E  refused to leave and demanded the full payment even though she only worked for 10-days. She even called for ‘back-up’ and speak to the distressed mommy. So Parent B have no choice but to give in to her demands, because he didn’t want anymore trouble as he is already depressed enough.

One more example, Parent C booked Freelance Nanny F and being first time parents, there are many things they were not aware. Freelance Nanny F demanded she must have this and that, every meal she (the nanny herself) only eat fish (the expensive type), only sleep in aircon room, she don’t do housework etc. Long story short, the baby have jaundice so he must be fed every 2-3 hours, and Freelance Nanny F continues to sleep throughout the night without feeding the baby. So Parent C has to do all the waking up at nights to feed the baby, this caused her to have poor rest and affect her milk supply.

A nanny’s jobscope is 24-hours taking care of newborn, which means the baby will sleep with the nanny and nanny will do all the day and night feeds, this is to ensure the new mommy have a complete rest. If insufficient rest, this may affect the milk supply and negative emotions (which may cause post-natal depression).

As a reputable Confinement agency, we have QUALITY AND REPUTATION to maintain. So we can’t just give you any Tom, Dick or Harry to do confinement for you. Our nannies need to be “QC-ed”. Which means besides having good experience, she must also possess good attitude, easy going and accommodating. Every customer and every nanny is different. Therefore, we do exclusive matching in our STAR Confinement Nanny Agency. Which we will match you accordingly to the most suitable nanny and make sure she is compatible before sending her to work for you. This will therefore reduces the chances of ‘replacement’ due to mis-match. 

Of course there are good sheeps and bad sheeps everywhere. We also have encountered nice freelance confinement nannies, but a portion of black sheeps are enough to give the industry a bad name. Which is why, we also kept our own log of Blacklisted Confinement Nannies, which we will never use them for any of our customers! 

If you are hiring a freelance nanny, please take note of the following:

  1. Where do you get the referral from? Note: Unless it is a personal friend whom have engaged the nanny before, so please don’t read too much of a forum recommendations of their personal Confinement Lady. 
  2. List down the jobscope the nanny will be doing.
  3. Indicate the price and other “hidden costs” if any.
  4. Ask for a receipt if you paid deposit to the nanny and any refunds should anything happens.
  5. Ask for a copy of her passport.
  6. Ask for all her contact numbers in case you give birth early.
  7. Ask what will happen if you run into a conflict with her.
  8. Ask what are the pro-rated if you find her unsuitable.
  9. Ask for references (if any)
  10. Apply for a work permit is a must!

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Beware These 6 Confinement Myths

During a woman’s confinement, there are bound to be many myths and old wives tales/advices offered by plenty of aunties and relatives. However, one should only heed proper advice given by a certified doctor, or a professional confinement nanny. For example, it is certainly NOT RIGHT to bundle yourself up in a blanket in this hot weather! As long as you keep yourself cool n dry, it is perfectly OK. Just do not blow fan or air con directly on to you, and more importantly after you’ve showered, please blow dry your hair and keep your hands and feet warm. It is easy to catch a cold as your body is still recovering and your immune system may be low.

We find the following article makes pretty much sense, proper advice given by Eu Yan Sang’s TCM experts.

In TCM, a woman loses large amounts of Qi and blood during childbirth, putting her body in a “cold” phase. This is why Chinese culture recommends a month-long period of “confinement” for the new mother. These weeks of rest and a modified diet are intended to restore the mother’s balance and return her to full health.

While certain confinement practices are common, it’s a bad idea to follow them blindly. Discover the truth behind the myths from a TCM perspective.

1. Myth: Do not drink plain water
This comes from the belief that drinking plain water causes water retention or will cool down the body too much.

The truth: There is no harm in drinking plain water. In fact, because new mothers tend to sweat heavily because of hormonal changes, they have all the more reason to drink water and keep hydrated. However, new mothers should be encouraged to drink warm water instead of cold water.

2. Myth: Consume alcohol
Drinking alcoholic beverages or eating dishes cooked with alcohol is thought to boost blood circulation and warm up the body.

The truth: It is correct that alcohol is used in TCM to expel cold and promote circulation. That said, new mothers should not regard alcohol as essential to their recovery. In fact, nursing mothers should avoid alcohol, since it can be passed on to their baby through breast milk.

3. Myth: Do not shower or wash one’s hair
Contact with water is thought to cause “wind” to enter the body and lead to headaches and rheumatism later in life. This taboo may have originated from northern China of the past. Since water quickly became freezing because of the cold weather, it was easy to catch a chill from bathing.

The truth: It is perfectly fine to continue one’s bathing habits. Besides maintaining personal comfort, regular bathing helps prevent skin and wound infections. However, the mother should not bathe with cold water. She should also dry her body immediately after bathing to prevent exposure to cold air.

4. Myth: Consume plenty of herbal supplements
Since childbirth drains a woman of Qi, it is recommended that she stock up on specific herbal soups and dishes that boost energy and blood.

The truth: Since every woman’s health profile is different, she may not benefit from the same remedies that help others. It is better to consult a qualified TCM physician for personalised advice and treatment.

That said, one dietary recommendation can be generalised to all new mothers. In TCM, it is best to avoid cooling foods during confinement. Eating such foods carry a risk of harming one’s Spleen and Stomach and hampering recovery. Foods to avoid include bamboo shoots, bananas, crabs and oysters.

5. Myth: Do not read or cry
Childbirth is thought to weaken the Liver, which is linked to the eyes. Therefore, one should avoid putting stress on the eyes by reading or crying. Otherwise, one might experience eye problems later in life.

The truth:There is no basis for the belief that reading or crying would lead to eye problems. However, TCM experts do hold that the large loss of blood during childbirth may weaken the eyes. This is because blood is related to the Liver, which is associated with the eyes. Regular consumption of Liver-protecting foods, such as Chinese Wolfberries, would help maintain eye health.

6. Myth: Wear warm clothing and do not use fans and air-conditioning
As with bathing, any exposure to cool air is said to cause “wind” to enter the body and lead to health problems later in life.

The truth: The key here is moderation. The new mother should do what makes her comfortable. In a hot and humid climate, fans and air conditioners may even be essential for preventing heat rash. However, the new mother should not let the fan or air-conditioner blow directly on her.

Article is taken directly from: http://www.euyansang.com.sg/beware-these-6-confinement-myths/eysfertility1.html, which you can read more interesting articles on their website too.

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